One of the markers of childhood is the need to have the
environment - that is the family, neighborhood, church,
etc. - provide a sense of being alive.
For example, mothers are constantly creating things for
their children to do to keep them busy. So children learn
to rely on what's outside of them as a source of their life.
They are children and have little internal sense of self they
can rely on.
But, as we grow up our internal sense of self is supposed to
emerge. But there's no guarantee of that happening. Many
of us remain hooked to outside stimulation and cannot hear
the whispered prodding of our own soul.
But intimacy is about sharing what we're like inside and
receiving what our partner shows about his or her inside.
By "inside" we don't mean ideas you've snatched from
someone else. And we don't just mean feelings. A sense
of self begins to grow when you consciously decide to
shift from looking out to others to stimulate you and
begin to rely on your inner self.
That's the time to turn your attention inward and listen.
Become intimate with what is going on inside you.
Actually, it's rather easy to do. The next time something's
happening you think is important, ask yourself, "What
does my soul have to say about this?" And then listen.
We use the word "soul" as a way of getting past what you're
accustomed to and triggering a deeper, more genuine response.
If you persist, you will become more and more secure with your
own internal landscape. And then the sweetest intimacy will
open itself to you, an intimacy with your Self, with others, with life,
with God, with being.
Let go the habits of childhood and step into your own soul.
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If negative mind chatter persists in getting in your way, Judith & Jim
created a powerful program for you, “Overcoming Negative Head Talk.”
Gift yourself the gift of freedom by going to:
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